No Christian can follow Jesus Christ without denying themselves and carrying their cross.
Matthew 16:24 Then Jesus said to his disciples, "If any of you wants to be my follower, you must turn from your selfish ways, take up your cross, and follow me.
Satan has teachings inside the church that go against the very words of Jesus Christ. These teachings are presented to people as words of encouragement to build up a persons confidence in themselves. All of these teachings start with the word “Self” some examples would be Self-love..Self-worth.. Self-confidence.
When it comes to love, nobody has to be told to love themselves. That is why God never told us to love ourselves. Instead He said to love our neighbor in the same way that we already love ourselves. Self love is natural for every human being from birth. We are born selfish and we have to be taught how to love, respect and give to others. That is why The Commandment was given "Love your neighbor as yourself". Notice people dont end friendships or relationships because they lack self love. Relationships and friendships end when people dont love each other. Even a person who does drugs is acting out of self love. They love the way they feel when they are high. Suicide is a selfish act as well they love themselves so much that they would rather die then deal with their pain.
Most people use the “Self Teachings” to discourage low self esteem and to build confidence and self worth. People are not born with low self esteem or a lack of self confidence or self worth. Like self love, self esteem and self confidence are both natural. Think about it we dont have to teach or encourage babies to crawl or walk. As soon as they realize they can move. They began to try and move. Babies have high self esteem and they have a lot of confidence in their ability to do what they want to do. Kids in general believe they can do anything until they are taught other wise. That is why we have safety precautions for babies and kids. To protect them from their own ideas of what they think they can do. Humans have always believed that we could accomplish anything. One of the reasons why God scattered the people and gave out different languages is because the people had so much confidence in themselves they believed if they work together they could build a tower to Heaven. However they did not trust and believe God. When He said He would not flood the earth again. Low self esteem is a trick from Satan. One of the reasons people have low self esteem is because instead of trusting in God they have trusted in themselves and failed. People also struggle because somebody else has planted seeds of discouragement and doubt in them. Then after being disappointed in their own effort. They were told that they need to believe in themselves and have more self confidence. When instead they should have been told to put their trust and confidence in God.
People who have low self esteem need to know that if they put their trust in God and believe in Jesus Christ they can do all things through Him. Not all things through their ideas of self worth, self confidence or self love. We all have gifts and talents. When we ask God how to use our gifts and talents to serve Him we find success as being productive Christians. Notice you wont find one scripture or commandment in the bible where God tells us to love ourselves or praise ourselves or build up our self worth or build up our self confidence all of these things are driven by pride and come from Satan to deceive Christians and to keep people from Christ. These teachings sound good, make us feel good and please our flesh. But the truth is these teachings are not Godly and promote the Sprit of Arrogance which is the silent killer to the Christian mind, body, soul and spirit. These teachings produce a “self righteousness” that is against the teachings of Jesus Christ and the Word of God. Remember Satans job is not to keep you from worldly success or to keep you poor, unhappy or even upset according to worldly standards. Satans only purpose is to separate you from Jesus Christ so you wont have a relationship with God and eternal life. Satan uses every thing in this world to achieve his purpose. But if you read your bible and ask the Holy Spirit to show you these things. Satan wont be able to deceive you. Remember Jesus Christ said to "Deny Yourself". You cant praise yourself, build up self worth, build up self confidence and deny yourself at the same time. You have to make the choice to deny yourself, put God first and put your faith in Jesus Christ. The only way you can deny yourself is by obeying the 2 most important commandments. “Love God with all your mind heart and soul...And Love your neighbor as yourself”..When you obey these 2 commandments you will automatically deny yourself. That is why the entire law is represented by these 2 Commandments.
Matthew 22: 37-40 37Jesus replied, “‘You must love the LORD your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your mind.’e 38This is the first and greatest commandment. 39A second is equally important: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’f 40The entire law and all the demands of the prophets are based on these two commandments.”
Mark 12: 29-3129Jesus replied, “The most important commandment is this: ‘Listen, O Israel! The LORD our God is the one and only LORD. 30And you must love the LORD your God with all your heart, all your soul, all your mind, and all your strength.’g 31The second is equally important: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’h No other commandment is greater than these.”
As a Christian you should not lack confidence or think less of yourself. But your Confidence should be in Jesus Christ. You should be bold in your faith. Remain in Christ and you will produce fruit that is pleasing to God, you will bless others, receive blessings, have joy, peace and eternal life through the power of the Holy Spirit.
Then he said, "Anyone with ears to hear should listen and understand." Faith..Hope..Love